Indian Parents Aur Jobs Ka Yeh Gajab Connection 💼
Jab Sapne 'Choice' Nahin, 'Instructions' Ban Jaate Hain
Hi, I’m Naman,
Ek sochne wala insaan, jo society ke double standards ko sirf observe nahi karta, balki unpe questions bhi uthata hai. Yeh blog unhi unspoken truths ko aawaz dene ki koshish hai jo aksar chhup jaate hain parents ke “tumhare bhale ke liye keh rahe hain” ke parde ke peeche.
"Tum Job Karoge? Kis Permission Se?"
Bhai sach bolo, kitne logon ne yeh line nahi suni?
“Beta job mat karo, papa ki business join karo.”
“Ladki ho, shaadi ke baad jo karna hai kar lena.”
“Job? Tumhare chacha ke ladke ko dekho, UPSC ki tayari kar raha hai…”
Hamare desh mein career ka matlab hota hai – parents ki permission, society ka approval, aur relatives ka comparison. Apne sapno ka kya? Woh toh shaayad kisi diary ke ek kone mein chup gaye hote hain.
Freedom of Choice Ya Predefined Menu?
Indian parents ke career options ek restaurant menu ki tarah hote hain – limited aur fixed:
- Doctor 👨⚕️
- Engineer 🧑💻
- IAS / IPS 👮♂️
Aur agar kisi ne bola ki mujhe writer banna hai, artist banna hai, ya game developer banna hai – toh reaction hota hai:
“Yeh sab toh timepass hai beta. Real job karo.”
Bachpan Se Conditioning: Dreams Nahi, Duties
Bachpan mein jab hum kehte the,
“Mujhe pilot banna hai.”
Toh jawab aata tha: “Theek hai, lekin pehle engineering kar lo.”
Parents ko lagta hai ki unhe duniya ki har job ka best pata hai. Par unhe yeh nahi pata ki har insaan alag hota hai, har dream ka worth hota hai.
Emotional Blackmail Disguised As Concern
- “Humne tumhare liye itna kuch kiya…”
- “Tum galat decision le rahe ho, baad mein pachtana mat.”
- “Tumhari job se society kya sochegi?”
Yeh sab ek hi cheez batate hain — trust ki kami. Apne hi bachchon pe bharosa nahi kar paate Indian parents.
Permission Nahi, Partnership Chahiye
Hamare parents humein job karne ki “permission” dete hain, jaise hum unke employee hain. Jabki hona yeh chahiye:
- ✅ Support
- ✅ Guidance
- ✅ Emotional backing
- ✅ Career ki real exploration
Bachchon ko chahiye permission nahi, partnership. Aisi partnership jahan parents sath chalein, peeche se push nahi karein.
Solution? Conversation, Not Dictation
Agar badlav chahiye toh parents ko bhi samajhna padega ki:
- Har insaan ki success ka definition alag hota hai.
- Secure job ka matlab sirf sarkari naukri nahi hota.
- Agar bacha khush nahi hai toh paisa bhi bekaar hai.
- Trust builds confidence – bina trust ke talent bhi dab jaata hai.
Aur bachchon ko bhi chahiye ki wo apni voice uthayein – respectfully, but firmly.
Final Thoughts: Apna Career, Apni Zindagi
“Ek waqt ke baad log sirf results dekhte hain, process nahi.”
“Aaj aap ‘disobedient’ lag rahe ho, kal wahi log aapke success ke example banayenge.”
Toh apne liye stand lo. Career ek choice hona chahiye, punishment nahi.
🔻🔻🔻
Aapka kya experience raha? Comment zaroor karo aur apni kahani share karo. Let’s build a safe space for real talk. 💬
THANK YOU ❤️
- Written with honesty and heart by NAMAN ✍️
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